Create Stick Figure Family With Mom and Dad and Older Son and Younger Son
Dear Mom and Dad,
Delight stick with me.
I tin't recollect clearly right now because there is a rather substantial department of my prefrontal cortex missing. Information technology's a fairly of import chunk, something having to practice with rational idea. You see, it won't be fully adult until I'chiliad about 25. And from where I sit, 25 seems a long manner off.
My brain is not yet fully developed
Information technology doesn't thing that I'yard smart; even a perfect score on my math Saturday doesn't insulate me from the normal developmental stages that nosotros all become through. Judgment and intelligence are two completely singled-out things.
And, the same matter that makes my brain wonderfully flexible, artistic and sponge-similar too makes me impulsive. Not necessarily reckless or negligent just more impulsive than I will be later in life.
Please stick with me.
So when you lot look at me like I have ten heads later on I've done something "stupid" or failed to do something "smart," you're not really helping.
Yous adults reply to situations with your prefrontal cortex (rationally) but I am more inclined to respond with my amygdala (emotionally). And when you enquire, "What were you thinking?" the reply is I wasn't, at least non in the way you are. Yous can blame me, or you lot can arraign mother nature, just either mode, it is what information technology is.
At this betoken in my life, I become that you dear me, but my friends are my everything. Please sympathise that. Right at present I choose my friends, merely, don't be fooled, I am watching you. Advisedly.
Please stick with me.
Here'south what you tin can exercise for me
- Model adulting.
I see all the behaviors that y'all are modeling and I hear all of the words y'all say. I may not listen merely I practise hear you. I seem impervious to your communication like I'm wearing a Kevlar vest merely your deportment and words are penetrating. I hope. If you go along showing me the way, I volition follow even if I detour many, many times before we reach our destination.
ii. Let me figure things out for myself.
If you allow me to experience the consequences of my ain actions I volition learn from them. Please give me a little bit of leash and let me know that I can figure things out for myself. The more I do, the more confidence and resilience I will develop.
iii. Tell me about you.
I want you to tell me all the stories of the crazy things you did as a teen, and what you learned from them. Then give me the space to exercise the same.
4. Assist me with perspective.
Continue reminding me of the big picture. I will roll my eyes at you and make all kinds of grunt-similar sounds. I will let you know in no uncertain terms that you can't possibly sympathise any of what I'grand going through. But I'thousand listening. I really am. It's difficult for me to see annihilation beyond the weeds that I am currently mired in. Assistance me scan out and focus on the long view. Remind me that this moment volition pass.
5. Keep me safety.
Please remind me that drugs and driving don't mix. Keep telling me that you will bail me out of any dangerous state of affairs, no acrimony, no lectures, no questions asked. But also permit me know over and over and over that you are there to mind when I demand you.
6. Be kind.
I will learn kindness from you and if you are relentless in your kindness to me, someday I will imitate that beliefs. Don't e'er mock me, please, and don't be cruel. Humor me — I recollect I know everything. You probably did besides at my historic period. Permit it become.
7. Show interest in the things I enjoy.
Some days I will choose to share my interests with you, and information technology will make me feel good if you lot validate those interests, by at least acting interested.
I solar day when the brume of adolescence lifts, y'all will observe a confident, strong, competent, kind adult where a surly teenager in one case stood. In the meantime, buckle in for the ride.
Delight stick with me.
Love,
Your Teenager
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Source: https://grownandflown.com/letter-from-teen-to-parents/
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